Moving house is a rollercoaster experience; more so when moving with kids. But it doesn’t have to be, as long as parents acknowledge that even kids feel the stress of such a remarkable change. Thus, proper preparation is crucial for an easy transition into a new home.
Here’s how to keep a move with kids as painless as possible.
Announce ahead of time
A first-time move can leave a mark on kids and teens. They feel that their lives are being uprooted, but with major things getting left behind in the process. Established friendships, a neighborhood committed to memory—a move disrupts these and more. That said, springing a move to kids at the last minute is not a good idea.
Reserve time for discussion. Explain the reason for moving, what it means for the whole family, and how it feels. Encourage kids to express themselves and expect that some of that will come out as anger or disappointment.
In general, kids can internalize news about a move a month beforehand without building up too much anxiety or reluctance.
Get them involved
To dissolve tension caused by the decision to transfer residence, get the kids involved with moving. Give them some sense of control by letting them in on decision-making. This serves as an anchor during this period of uncertainty.
These small responsibilities can take many forms. Have them plan the look and layout for their new rooms. Ask for their feedback on new furniture. Let them pack their own things during moving-out day.
If the new home is a reasonable distance away, drive kids to the area so they can see it for themselves. If that’s not a possibility, show as many pictures as possible and talk about interesting places and activities there.
Kids’ anxiety about moving is due to the fear of the unknown. By making the new place appear less mysterious, they will slowly warm up to the idea that moving isn’t so awful after all.
Set an example
Parents can’t help feeling stressed, anxious, or conflicted about a move, especially if some compromises had to be made. Despite this, they should be mindful of their actions and behavior. Remember: the kids are watching.
Even if the move is unsettling, focus on its positive aspects and set the right expectations. Be open about personal doubts but don’t dwell on them for too long. If kids constantly observe negative cues, it will take them longer to adjust to the move. If the feedback is more balanced, they’re more likely to think that everything will be okay.
Find ways to maintain ties
Saying goodbye is the hardest part of a move. But it doesn’t mean dropping everything and forgetting. Encourage kids to come to their own terms with leaving.
Allow them to take pictures as souvenirs of the old home. An article by the Child Mind Institute also suggests that parents should encourage kids to maintain contact with the friends they’re leaving through social media. This is particularly important for teens since it is challenging for them to be seen as “the new kid.” Being in touch with their old life serves as a reprieve from the challenges of forming new friendships and patterns.
Plan something at the end of move-in day
Keep a handle on the excitement and stress of moving day by delegating tasks to the young ‘uns according to the amount of responsibility they can handle. Then once it’s officially over, celebrate this milestone with a simple but special activity. Better Homes & Gardens recommends pizza or takeout for a relaxed and fuss-free night to cap off the day. Also, take this time to thank the kids and to remind them to speak up whenever they feel uncertain or uncomfortable during the transition.
Keep and create constants
Most children respond well to predictability and structure. Since moving houses shakes the foundation temporarily, immediately establishing routines becomes crucial.
Ease the kids into their new surroundings by putting some semblance of order. Eat family dinners together. Decorate their rooms with familiar items. If they’re old enough, give them free rein. Stock the pantry with their favorite food and snacks. In this situation, familiarity breeds comfort.
Help put down roots
Rebuilding a sense of home takes time. Start by getting to know the neighbors and drumming up conversation. A Parents’ article cites parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba’s advice to have a one-on-one with the children on making new friends. To multiply these opportunities, present kids with extracurricular activities to participate in.
Transferring to a new school also presents a challenge for the studying members of the family. Parents can ask for help from the school principal and teachers regarding the transition. Let them offer guidance and suggestions on how the kids can better adjust and integrate.
Moving with kids in tow is manageable with the right preparation and expectations. And if you’re thinking about acquiring Gulfport, MS real estate, consider the services of the Owen & Co., LLC Real Estate team.
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